Reiki and Death

Coming upon the heels of my Mother passing peacefully into the next plane as she let go of her long journey with Alzheimer’s Disease in this one, this month’s post is an intimate look at how Reiki has helped and supported my Mother and me through what is known as “the long goodbye” of Alzheimer’s.

Many people confuse healing with curing.

Sometimes there is no cure. There is always healing.

Death is a devastating subject. A Taboo one. We teach our children from the very beginning. Hushed voices. Hidden places and emotions. Sadness. Fear. No answers. They watch us fear death and learn to do the same.

Loving life is not fearing death.

And Reiki transcends both life and death.

It therefore connects them, becoming part of the bridge for walking between the being of here and the being of there – the whatever comes next.

Reiki knows no time or distance or space.

It is therefore possible to send Reiki to your unborn children, to the situation of having children, or becoming pregnant, as well as to your departed loved ones, to assist them in making the transition into their new state of being. We would be blithely remiss to think they have no need that we cannot send them love for in their new state. Reiki will assist in the clearing of unfinished business left behind for us on this side, healing relationships and grief, mitigating the pain of what was said or left unsaid, done or undone, and safely conveying messages of the heart across time and space – through dimensions, if you will. It will also assist your loved one in awakening to their new being and moving forward through this parting on their new side, in their new being, helping them to clear any unfinished business they have left here, or to greet and resolve any unfinished or unresolved relationships they were not able to complete in fullness here due to circumstances including the death of another prior to their own. Sending Reiki does not end with death. Just as we use distance Reiki here in this dimension of life, we can send loving energy for the highest healing good to those who have or are preparing to depart and emerge in another dimension of life (death), or to those who are planning to enter and begin in this dimension of life (birth).

To give you a concrete example of what I am talking about

I will use myself and, once again, my beautiful Mother, to recount how Reiki has assisted us in this final part of our journey.

To begin with, Mother’s parting was the most peaceful experience anyone could wish for their loved one. For a woman who several times during her journey through Alzheimer’s, even as speech failed her, was intense enough in her fear of death to tell me so, she literally left us upon a dream, falling gently to sleep and waking on angels’ wings. It was apparent to all who saw her that she was in no pain or discomfort, she felt safe and secure and loved, and simply fell asleep. From the nurses who checked upon her, to her nephew who peeked in that evening after dinner, to my sister and I arriving shortly after her passing, all of us found a woman at rest, unafraid, and peaceful. Mom had been receiving Reiki every time I visited – which means pretty much every week, sometimes more, with a few breaks when I was away for some reason – for the past three years. I also sent her Reiki in distance sessions. The Sunday before her Monday evening passing, I once again Reikied her from head to foot – this time her “booties” were off, big foamy things that made it hard to get at her feet. Even though I know that Reiki goes through them, it was a joy to be able to hold her foot in my hand. I was reminded of the many times , when I was a girl, where I rubbed her feet at night while she rested on the couch.

That is the last live visit I had with my Mother; and who could have wished for more? She knew I was there and smiled at me. She rested back into the comfort of the Reiki, and died peacefully the next evening.

Does Reiki help your loved one transition from this world more peacefully?

Yes it does! And does it help you let go and move more peacefully through the process of dying? Again, yes! Giving Reiki brings peace to the giver as well as the receiver. You are both brought to a different, quiet, loving place. A place where there is that connection across the dimensions that makes traveling through the “veil”, if you will, by your departing one, a much less jarring event. In Reiki, you are actually there to welcome your loved one into newness through the use of distance Reiki. You are connected to all time and dimensions, and therefore, while experiencing grief and separation here, you are yet able to be in that new space to love your loved one, and are ready for the new and different relationship you will now have with them.

Immediately after Mom’s passing – while still standing at her bedside – I had a very short and clear vision of her curled up at the feet of someone – perhaps her parents, I do not know and did not see who it was. She was a young woman in a bright red dress with large white polka dots and a kerchief of the same tying up her long dark wavy hair. She was smiling, happy and home. I think I was allowed a very brief glimpse into her wakening in her new place….

A few days later, during a morning Gassho meditation where I was planning to move into distance Reiki for some others, of a sudden, Mother was there! Huge and beautiful and encircling me from above in her arms, gorgeous curly hair all over – half drawn up and cascading down along with an absolutely divine smile full of the most wonderful love! Ooooo! Mom you are so big now, I told her. And we finished up our business right then. I knew she knew and had heard all the things on my lips and in my heart to tell her and that we had both fully forgiven and loved one another and that she is exactly what my poetry had foretold, my Mother Angel Always.

What are you looking for in your experience of death here on earth?

What do you seek in understanding and experience of spirit and beyond? What fears and anxieties need releasing, what griefs need healing? Reiki opens paths for healing and connection that are beyond understanding. Ones that will help and guide your loved ones and yourself through the difficult places. Bring your faith, bring your Reiki, bring all that you have to pour out on the experience of death. How we pass from this dimension is an assured and extremely important part of our journey both here and beyond.

For more about how Reiki can assist with Alzheimer’s and Care Giving please read this article from Psych Central

For a brief look at the upcoming story of my Mother’s and my Journey Through Alzheimer’s please visit my poetic soul at www.DeborahLynnBeginnings.com

And sample some of my Alzheimer’s Poetry here.